In March of 2016, my wife and I had completed 5 years of marriage, although, we have been together since March 2005. We had always thought about having a baby, but kept pushing it for the “next year” as we felt we still had time. However, that year, we decide we were finally ready to have have one.
My wife got pregnant in August 2016, and we found out about it at the end of September. We were both extremely thrilled, but at the same time extremely nervous. But I guess every first time parent has to go though this.
Fortunately for us, my sister was also expecting her second child (she just delivered a few days ago!). In fact, she was exactly a month ahead. So she was able -and continues to - guide us throughout the pregnancy, as well as give us a heads up on all the tests and scans we needed to get done.
I was leaving for a business trip the night my wife told me about her pregnancy. Luckily, her mom was due to arrive in Mumbai the next day, so I was happy that someone would be with her in my absence.
When I got back, she was exactly six weeks pregnant, which meant that we could go for our first scan. The moment I saw our baby on the screen, I was attached!
The first time you hear your baby’s heartbeat is a very emotional experience and it instantly prepares you for your role as a parent. So my advice for any first time fathers-to-be is this - “DO NOT MISS THIS MOMENT!”
Fast forward to today and my wife is less than a month away from delivering our baby. I’ve had to change my car from a no frills hatchback to a sedan with all the safety features as well as a big boot. It’s also much more comfortable to ride in, which is a huge deal to my wife.
We have also registered ourselves at a maternity hospital and informed them about our expected due date. I would suggest that you do this at least 3 months prior to your delivery date. Use the first 6 months to research various hospitals and doctors in your area. You will read a lot of reviews online, but I would suggest you meet with a few gynaecologists and choose the one you are most comfortable with.
There are plenty on mothers online that have written about their pregnancy, so I won’t go into details about that (since they are far more qualified to share their experience). However, I will be blogging about MY experience as a first time father, and challenges that are to come in the months (and years) ahead. I hope other fathers like me will be able to use this information, as well as learn from my mistakes - which I am sure will be plenty!
Please feel free to share your experiences, as well as any tips that you might have for me in the comment sections below! See you all in the next post.